To bill or not to bill? That is the question.

A huge expense when planning a wedding is the reception where you and your guests get together and share a great meal. This is why answering RSVPs is so important! But what happens when your guests RSVP to your wedding and DON’T show up? Well, a woman in Minnesota decided to do something about it. She decided to bill her guests for the missed meals.

Jessica Baker received an invoice in the mail charging her $75.90 for being a no-show at a relative’s wedding. The invoice said:

“This cost reflects the amount paid by bride and groom for meals that were RSVPed for, reimbursement and explanation for no-show, card, call or text would be appreciated.” (Facebook: KARE11 page)


Tacky or smart?  

Wedding etiquette says not to follow in this couple’s footsteps. Following up with people who didn’t show up to your wedding is considered a no-no, let alone billing them for costs.

A lot of Facebook users shared their thoughts on KARE 11’s Facebook Page.

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The verdict?

RSVPing to a wedding and not showing up is very rude guest etiquette. Remember that the bride and groom have spent months planning a very costly wedding. They’ve had to cut down their guest list time and YOU are one of the people they felt was too important not to invite. They saved you a seat and made it clear that they wanted you to share in their joy.

Every bride who’s invested time and money into a wedding will tell you that the worst thing you can do is RSVP and be a no-show last minute with no explanation. If something comes up last minute, give the couple a call a day or so after the wedding, send them a card, write them a Facebook message. You owe it to them to give an explanation.

On the other hand, no couple should bill their guests. It is tacky wedding etiquette. Planning a wedding is hard work, but you should always prepare for no-shows and expect to lose a little money over it. Weddings are a joyous occasion, but sometimes they end up causing problems.  Don’t let little things like this destroy relationships. Things happen unexpectedly.

The moral of the story? If you RSVP to a wedding, make sure you do everything in your power to show up. If you have guests who RSVPed and didn’t show up, DO NOT send them a bill in the mail. Keep it classy and move on.


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